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Is it ever OK to tell someone they need to get fit?

Let’s face it, this time of year can see the best of us put on a few pounds. For many of us however, we’ll put in a little extra effort in the gym and the weight will roll off.

However, what if your partner, or other loved one, has piled on the pounds, perhaps over several years, and isn’t motivated to act? Is it ever OK to tell that person that they need to get back into shape and boost their fitness?

Clearly, this is a tricky one and treading carefully is highly recommended!

In my opinion, if someone you love is carrying a lot of excess weight and doing little to no exercise, this could have a serious impact on their health and wellbeing, and as such it is time to step up and tell them.

Back2Fitness graduate, 49-year-old Ian Hunter, a former Northampton Saints and England rugby player, was on the receiving end of such feedback:

“My wife sat me down and told me it was time to act, not only was I piling on the weight, but I lacked energy and I wasn’t myself.”

With his wife merely confirming what he already knew, Ian was spurred into action. When he began the programme, 6’ 2” Ian weighed in at 19 stone 7lb, and he’s now a trim 98kg. Looking and feeling better than he has in a long time, Ian is now focused on maintaining his results.

The importance of support from family and friends should never be underestimated when it comes to things such as losing weight, getting in shape or quitting smoking. By being supportive, (which sometimes means telling those you love some hard truths – kindly of course!), you can make a huge impact on someone’s wellbeing.

If you feel it is time to help someone take charge of their fitness, check out my top tips to breaking the news…

·       Be tactful – hearing criticism, especially about our appearance, can be tough. Don’t reel off a list of areas they need to focus on, remind them that you care and want them to be fit and healthy.

·       Set an example – get active yourself and encourage your partner to join in. Also, be sure to remove temptation from the cupboards, ditch the junk food and when it comes to family meals, prepare nutritious food that doesn’t compromise their goals.

·       Recognise their efforts -  we all need a pat on the back for a job well done, so if you can see that your partner is making an effort, be sure to praise them.

·       Capitalise on the time of year – the New Year marks the perfect time to overhaul your health and wellbeing. Capitalise on this on your partner’s behalf - treat them to new workout gear, gym membership and a subscription to a Back2Fitness package for a fitness kickstart.

While undoubtedly a tough conversation to have, if delivered with care and concern for their wellbeing, hopefully your partner will see that you have their best interests at heart.

Until next time,



Sam Yassin

With a degree in Sport and Exercise Science and coming from the country’s most elite sporting town, Loughborough, Sam Yassin is an experienced strength and conditioning coach. He is a member of the UKSCA and is currently working towards his full accreditation. Having passed his examination and LTAD (Long-term Athletic Development) case study, he is well on his way to becoming a gold standard S&C coach. Sam has long been involved in the sporting world, having competed in a wide range of sports from a young age, despite being born with bilateral talipes and having had more than 5 lower body surgeries. In his final year of university, he gained valuable insight into what it takes to be part of a professional team as he interned at Leeds United Football Club as a strength and conditioning coach.

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